The Gap Game

I remember when the Gap clothing store opened its first shop in my city.  There was a lot of excitement about this place. People told a lot of stories about the experience of shopping there. They’re obsessed with customer service! The clerks wore headsets and radios so they could talk to each other! They’ve got…

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Tangent killer

Tangents are changeable creatures.  They’re fun in casual conversation, leading us down rabbit holes of conversation.  Eventually someone asks “how did we get on this topic?”  Laughter ensues. In professional settings, they are deadly.  When there is a point and a purpose to a conversation, telling people that you are about to go on a…

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Communicating and Receiving

There are always at least two people involved in a conversation: the communicator – the person doing the talking, and the receiver – the person doing the listening.* These roles usually switch frequently during the conversation, but they’re always there. Both roles have a huge amount of power. I generally believe that the receiver has…

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Subject to Fashion

Charisma comes in different flavours and styles, and absolutely experiences fluctuation in fashion.  Like most kind of fashions, the “fashionable” characteristics that make us consider one person or another charismatic are both a reflection and creation of our current culture.  Different social cultures – and I apply the term “culture” to both small groups, self-selected…

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Dipping your toes

There are two ways of dealing with a fear: either by plunging in whole-body or dipping in your toes and gradually getting in deeper. One way isn’t better than the other, and neither method is going to apply to one person all of the time. That being said, I find that when it comes to…

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Creativity and the Accountant

Let’s start with a throwback, for fun’s sake: I work with plenty of people from financial industries.  I also work with engineers, public health researchers, and others who would not be in job typically considered “creative.”  Often, clients from these walks of life kvetch that they are not creative, and say that it’s probably why…

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Talking to strangers

Much like any other skill, we need to practice talking to be good at it. You don’t need to sweat buckets over complex presentations or formal speeches to become a good talker.  You just need to talk with people.  Lots of people.  Different people.  I know some great presenters who are surprisingly poor at just talking with…

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The length of the speech doesn’t always matter

Time doesn’t matter when it comes to public speaking.  Five minutes or fifty, the act of creating and polishing a presentation is remarkably similar, both in time and energy. There is false security in the statement “It’s just a five minute speech.”  A five minute speech can be as difficult to craft as an hour…

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Call for Input: tell me what you want to learn!

I’m in full planning mode for the January – April season of classes and workshops, and I’d love to hear what you want and need.  Is there a particular speaking skill that is eluding you? Is there something about your presentations that is stressing you out?  Have you ever wanted to take a fun class to learn…

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