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This year I am running two classes of my 8 session public speaking course. This challenging fun, intensive course will enable you to overcome your anxiety, unleash your voice, and create presentations that will capture your audience's attention.

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How Using Dead Languages Brings Life to Your Speech

How Using Dead Languages Brings Life to Your Speech

Advance warning, dear reader, I’m indulging a desire to really geek out on some rhetoric here. I invite you to come along and get your word nerd on with me…

 

I’m currently making a new series of Pop-Up Rhetoric videos (they aren’t released yet, but you can check out other Pop-Up Rhetoric videos on my YouTube channel). These videos bring to life the analyses of 3 political speeches and a presidential debate featured in Appendix 1 of my book.

This project means I’m mired in rhetorical terminology – mostly Latin and Greek. Pathos! Logos! Concessio! Epizeuxis! Using these terms always means risking making people’s eyes cross or putting them to sleep. These were the kinds of terms that high school students were required to memorize in English class, creating an irritable soup of confusion and ennui.

So why do I insist on using them in my videos, my talks, and my training? Why do I talk about Logos instead of logic, or concessio instead of conceding?

I’ve got three reasons.

First, it’s because simplified English translations of these words don’t work very well.

The direct translations tend to be inaccurate – they miss core concepts and usually require lengthy explanations. Dignitas is more faceted and complex than the closest English word ‘dignity’ implies. It’s much easier (and more fun) to say epizeuxis than it is to say “repeat a word over and over with increasing force for vehemence or emphasis.”

Second, using technical terms changes fuzzy, ephemeral ideas into hardnosed tools that can be wielded strategically.

Many of us have a mental block when it comes to developing a strategic approach to speaking. We think that skillful speaking is more alchemy and instinct than careful planning. We spend all our time tweaking the content or memorizing lines than we do figuring out how to use language, voice, and body to give our words bigger impact.

Third, using technical terms helps strip away some of the baggage and pre-conceptions about rhetoric and how it can be used.

Click to Tweet: Technical jargon can help us overcome the baggage of colloquial terms. #communication #lifehack

For example, most people instinctively translate logos into logic, and then confuse ‘logic’ with truth or fact. But logos is less about truth or fact and more about what you choose to offer as evidence or proof based on your audience’s viewpoint. Logos also incorporates how you arrange that evidence within your argument to make it as convincing as possible. Using a logical fallacy is fair game when playing with the logos part of your argument. All those details about logos tend to get lost or overlooked when we call it “logic.”

Similarly, I find people can think more objectively about strategically using emotional hooks in their speech if we talk about figuring out the pathos than if we talk about how to work the audience’s emotions. Working people emotions feels icky and manipulative. But digging into different pathos devices seems more strategic.

Truth be told, I really don’t care if people can remember the technical names of different rhetorical devices and concepts. Heck, I can’t remember them all either – that’s why God made reference books. I’m much more concerned with whether people are able to apply the concepts they carry.

But if you find yourself struggling to get your head into the rhetoric game, or are looking for a way to express or nail down an especially slippery concept, or need to step back and really examine the effectiveness of your presentation, consider putting your toga on and switching over to those good ol’ dead languages. That rhetorical jargon might just help you unlock your genius.

News, Developments, and Upcoming Talks/Events

  • See me in action at Nerd Nite November 26 at the Citadel Theatre in Edmonton, AB! How To Lose Friends and Manipulate People: The Fine Art of Bamboozlement (title may change depending on my caprice). Click here for ticket information and to learn more about Nerd Nite.
  • Currently in development - my online digital course "Masterpiece Presentations: Your step-by-step method for creating high-impact presentations"


Category Archives: Confidence

What to do when you’re afraid to fly…or speak?

What to do when you’re afraid to fly…or speak?

Photo credit: miikkahoo via Visual Hunt / CC BY-SA

 

I have a secret for you:

I don’t like flying. 

I don’t like the idea of being in a pressurized tube thousands of feet in the air, hurtling along at ungodly speeds.

I don’t like being trapped in a confined space from which there is no escape.

I don’t like turbulence.

I really don’t like the feeling of being utterly helpless in my seat, unable to pilot the craft, but absolutely convinced that things would be much better if I was in the co-pilot’s seat.*

And while I can usually maintain my composure on a flight, there have been times on particularly bumpy rides when I’ve had to grip my husband’s hand tight, and even a couple episodes of silent tears.

No, I don’t like flying. But I absolutely refuse to let my anxiety about flying limit my ability to take advantages of the opportunities and experiences that flying enables. 

In the space of just a few weeks, I’ve flown to Las Vega, Fort St. John, and Chicago. All of these trips were amazing. All of them gave me the opportunity to meet and connect with people, share experiences and knowledge, and see new and interesting things.**

And the more I fly, the less I fear it. I was even fairly composed when it came time for my solo flight from Chicago back home. Exposure helps a great deal in working through this fear. The longer I go between flights, the more anxious I become. Do it several times in short order, and I’m able to get through it relatively easily.

Once I’m up in the air, and my amygdala tries to claw its way into my consciousness with visions of horrible, terror-filled final moments, I help quell it by consciously (and sometimes vocally) marveling at just how amazing the whole thing is.

Isn’t it amazing that humans were able to figure out how to do this? Isn’t it amazing that we can actually keep a thing this size airborne? Look at the patterns of farm fields, at that mountain, at that snaking river, don’t they look amazing from this high up? 

Yes, this strategy of choosing to be amazed instead of frightened feels completely fake at first, but if I keep it up I actually start to believe it. I start noticing things instead of living inside my own head, staring blankly at my own anxiety. I start to settle down, and even to enjoy myself.

If speaking gives you the same jolt of fear that flying gives me, don’t avoid it. Expose yourself to it as much as possible, even if it’s in a tiny gesture like voicing your opinion in a meeting or standing up to ask a speaker a question. Drown out your anxious thoughts with thoughts of wonder or amazement, or simply by noticing interesting things around you. Isn’t it amazing that everyone is here on a common purpose? Isn‘t it incredible that we’re able to videoconference in people living halfway around the globe? This is incredible – these people genuinely want to hear what I have to say, and I have this amazing opportunity to say it to them. This remote presenter actually vibrates when I only have two minutes left in my talk – this is the best gadget ever!”

These tactics might sound overly simple or silly, but they really do help. You might not eliminate your anxiety (I still get a bit nervous when I fly), but you will help work through it. And by doing that you’ll be sure that you never miss out on the opportunities and experiences that public speaking enables.

 Click to Tweet: Don’t let the fear of speaking limit the opportunities and experiences public speaking creates.

*This notion is complete nonsense. I have no idea how to fly a plane. It does, however, say something about my latent control-freak nature. 

**This is also why this blog has been relatively quiet over the past month or so.

Confidence Isn’t Dominance

Confidence Isn’t Dominance

This post is an excerpt from a project I’m currently working on: The Little Book of Big Confidence     Here’s a pernicious myth about confidence:  Confident people are dominant. Utter hogwash. It’s easy to think that dominance indicates confidence. After all, people who speak louder than others, or take up all the space, or… Continue Reading

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